The purpose of an EAP is to provide employees with access to confidential counselling and information services to assist in dealing with a broad range of issues such as personal, work, financial or legal issues.

When employees are worried or concerned, it helps to have someone who will listen. When that person is a skilled counsellor or a specialist in a particular area, then you are taking the first step to resolving these worries or concerns.

Apart from receiving support, you will discover your own strengths, skills and resources.

Our EAP can assist your employees with difficulties in any of these areas:

• Family issues

• General information queries

• Work related issues

• Financial matters

• Emotional concerns

• Legal matters

• Relationship difficulties

Are your staff members in need of some help in furthering their career or perhaps your company is in a period of transition. This may involve some life changes for your employees either through redeployment or even redundancy. All change in this regard involves a loss and this may be an emotional or traumatictime for those individuals who are involved.

Our counsellors have the necessary experience of guiding people through this difficult time as individuals and in a group situation by providing both one to one counselling and training/facilitation services to your employees. In addition to counselling we can provide training around their career such as skills identification, job search techniques, interview skills and preparation, presentation skills and other personal development elements as required.

Sexual energy is everywhere and in everything, depending on how open you are to this truth and the charge your sexual energy provokes in yourself or others can feel deeply disturbing and frightening. Panic may arise with a sense of exposure, confusion and feelings of being out of control. These experiences are often triggered to the surface more in adolescent. The adolescents who begins to open in this way can find themselves trapped within deep fears, isolation and loss, without language to express these powerful feelings. Drinking and drugs can offer a temporary solution to numb panic.

The adolescent learns ways to cut off from the fear and arrives in adulthood with coping mechanisms, which function fairly well in society. However hidden in the recess of the unconscious is the forgotten parts which make themselves known in many different forms in our lives. Sexual dysfunction, difficulties to reach orgasm, deep inhibited shyness to engage sexually, charged sexual energy directed outwards in a compulsive desire for sex. There are many ways that our sexuality is calling us back through loss of aliveness and disconnections.

The path to reclaim our aliveness at the core of our sexuality is often a rocky one. Twists and turns, blind corners, dead ends, cliff edges are part of the journey. Yet the gifts in reclaiming the deep masculine and feminine within the journey of our sexuality is too many to express in words

Physical symptoms

Palpitations, chest pains, faintness, being flushed, sweating, shortness of breath, hyperventilation, choking, difficulties in breathing, dry mouth, nausea, vomiting, dizziness, headaches, vertigo, tremors, restlessness, panic attacks, sense of fear.

Psychological symptoms

Things around you appearing unreal, sounds being distorted, speeding or slowing of thoughts, tension, distractibility, insomnia, anxiety concern for others.

Causes

There is no single explanation for the occurrence of anxiety disorders. Several factors may need to be considered. Early upbringing, inner conflicts, anxiety as a learned response, physical factors, self-talk, coping behaviour and social determinants. Often the best explanation for the causes of anxiety will more than likely take all these factors into account.

How counselling can help

Coping with anxiety can be a lonely and isolating experience. Counselling can help you develop your own coping mechanisms in order to deal with anxiety and strategies to overcome negative thinking patterns. Part of the work in dealing with anxiety is exploring any possible underlying issues causing or maintaining the symptoms.

The stages of bereavement:

• Shock - experienced as a sense of numbness, withdrawal, inability to express emotions. (‘It hasn’t really hit me yet’, ‘ I’m just going around in a daze’.)
• Denial – acting as though no loss had occurred. Hallucinations (hearing their loved one’s voice)
• Depression – despair, pain, crying moaning, wanting to give up.
• Guilt – Wished they had done something differently.
• Anxiety – panic about the implications of the loss.
• Anger – feeling victimised and trying to find someone or something to blame.
• Acceptance – letting go, saying good-bye, appreciating, forgiving – and moving on with hope.

About Anger:

• It is natural

• It is rarely a useful emotion

• It is a reaction to feeling threatened in some way

• It can be treated by learning new responses to the events it.

Symptoms:

• Hostility

• Explosive outbursts

• Tense muscles

• Clenched fists or jaw

• Aggressive behaviour

• Refusal to follow directions or orders

• Social withdrawal

• Verbal abuse

• Bad tempered irritable

• Sleep difficulties

Relationships with our children can be tense and this can result in feelings of guilt, anger and sadness. In order to understand our own relationship difficulties we first need to take the courageous step of developing a more intimate relationship with ourselves.

The first and most influential experience of personal relationships was when we were children. If our relationship with our parents were difficult, or we observed lack of communication, fighting and tension between our parents this may influence our relationships as adults. If we experienced rejection, hurt and losses as a child we may be unconsciously repeating these patterns as adults or avoid intimate relationships in order to protect from anticipated rejections.

It may be that you are questioning why you are always choosing the wrong person and end up hurt and seem to be unable to stop repeating this pattern. Maybe you are a person who does the rejecting, however feels lonely and desires closeness.

How counselling can help

Counselling can help you to explore and develop a more intimate relationship with yourself. It can help unravel what is stopping you from getting close and in this process you can begin to develop new ways of being with others.

It is a six weeks course with numbers to a maximum of eight men per course.

The courses are given by qualified and experienced counsellors who are men who have personal experience
of cancer (had it themselves).

Some Topics Covered:

• Dietetics
• PH levels
• Oxygenation
• Immune system
• Detoxify
• Antioxidants
• Enzymes
• Psychological response to motivation

To find out more information about this course please do not hesitate in contacting us.

Whether it is be yourself, a family member or a friend, a cancer diagnosis may bring difficult and painful feelings. Talking to a counsellor experienced in cancer issues can ease the sense of isolation you may feel and help you find ways to face the challenge ahead.

How counselling can help

Counselling can help you explore this frustrating “stuckness”. The process may begin by sorting out who you really are and unlock your creativity and confidence to develop your own special purpose in life.